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Comic of the Month – Abby Feldman


Where are you from and what is it like there?
I’m from Rochester, New York. It’s like Canada there, but with more
gun crime. Also, it is the coolest and most cultured city in Upstate
New York but who cares?

How has your comedy career met or not met the expectations you had
as you began this career?
I had no expectations at all, so comedy has completely surpassed all
of them. I love it. I took a stand up workshop, and we did a final
performance afterward, and then I realized I had become a comedian.
This makes me very happy and satisfied.

Who are your 3 favorite living comedians?
I like Joan Rivers because she is old and still hungry. I like Rita
Rudner because she is feminine and surprising and someone once told me
I reminded him of her. I really like Ted Alexandro because he seems
more comfortable on stage than off, and is nice and bizarre, and takes
his time enjoying it.

Who are your 3 favorite dead comedians?
Going along with your assumption that death is real, I’m quite
enamored with Bill Hicks and Lenny Bruce. They’re not so much “ha ha”
funny as they are lovers of truth. I know he’s not a comedian, but I
also really like Bruce Lee. Oh, and Thoreau.

How would you describe your material?
Tiny particles of love flowing out of a glowing orgasm.

How do you balance pursuing comedy as a career with starting and
maintaining personal relationships?
I want to have a career in comedy and I also don’t want to be alone. I
give time and attention to both, and make sure there is love enough to
make it worth it. If a comedy opportunity doesn’t seem as wonderful as
spending time with a person or people I really enjoy, maybe I will
have to convince those people to come to a show, and then I’ll buy
them drinks and give them lots of kisses afterward. I have friends in
comedy, and those people are amazing and huge sources of support and
inspiration. My best comedy critics are my boyfriend and my
grandparents. Being surrounded by people with different expertise,
experience and perspectives challenges me to communicate my material
in a stronger way. I also like to dance and sing a lot.

How do you feel about the institution of marriage?
I am a bit put off by any type of institution. I do, however, see some
value in people choosing to go through life with a partner to give
them strength and support and make something greater than the sum of
their two parts. I don’t think I like the idea very much. Of marriage.
We were all born as babies, so adorable and free-spirited. It’s bad
enough we grow up and get old and fat, we might as well maintain some
semblance of dignity. Though I am definitely pro having babies- tons
of them if you can afford it. And a lot of people feel it’s important
to get married before doing that. I guess I’m okay with marriage. But
please try to still look decent, and don’t take his last name unless
it’s way better than yours, and don’t get rich and lazy and sad. If
people can get married and not do all those things, and still maintain
their curiosity and freshness, the world might not end. The universe
understands this, and that’s why it wants the gays to get married so

Where would you like to see your comedy career in 5 years?
I would love it to be a career. I hope to be even more amazing in 5
years, and absolutely fucking brilliant in 10. For those of you who
know me, you know I never swear, making that statement all the more
powerful. I want to be able to know myself and my voice so well that I
can improvise most of my set and make each show unique to that one
moment. I love this.

What inspires you?
Love. I love love so much and want to put more of it into the world. I
think of comedy as a way to literally make love to lots of people at
one time, and not have to pretend to feel slutty about it. Laughter
gets our bodies vibrating at a higher frequency, and that is love-
it’s healing, it’s necessary, and it’s therapeutic for both audience
and performer. I am inspired by the people and things I experience
around me, I write, and when I know something is true and funny and it
makes me laugh, I want to share that with other people. Also seeing
good comedy. That’s a huge inspiration- watching someone do better
than me, I want to get there. Bad comedy, too. “I hope that doesn’t
happen to me” is a huge motivator.

What frustrates you most about the world of comedy?
Anger, fear, insecurity. When I see comics turning on their audience,
or getting defensive or doing material that seems in-genuine or hacky
or mean or dirty for no good (funny) reason. All of those things are
depressing, they make comedy not funny or fun, and that can’t be
satisfying for anyone. I want to hold those people and tell them
everything is going to be alright and breastfeed them. But I’m too
busy with my super successful comedy career to do that.

Her website is HERE.